All in Communication

Episode 57: The Peck of Foreplay

This week is all about L’s latest beau- The Italian. She discusses their first several dates, what went right and what went not so right. Throughout the episode we chat through a multiple of issues in early dating: communication in making plans ahead of time, Hot Guy sex privilege, room temperature comprise when staying over and how to tell someone their sex game needs improvement.

B’s still dating The Lawyer and chats through her summer plans with him and future plans on how things will be once she moves to the UK at the end of the summer. B+L discuss if you should cancel plans with a coworker in lieu of a date and discuss The Lawyer’s past casual dating.

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This episode was recorded in New York in July 2021, any COVID-related talks are reflective of the time of that recording. Please check https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html for the most up-to-date news regarding your State or Country.

Episode 55: A Marriage of the UK & US

On this week’s episode B is out West and interviews her two friends from Uni about their recent marriage and move from the UK to US. Anonymous American ‘A’ and British ‘J’ chat to B about how they met, deciding when to move in together, how they made decision to move to the States and what lies for them in the future.

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This episode was recorded in CA in May 2021, any COVID-related talks are reflective of the time of that recording. Please check https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html for the most up-to-date news regarding your State or Country.

Episode 50: Synthetic Relationships (Featuring an Entire Bottle of Whiskey)

B+L celebrates 50 episodes with this two-hour special (the only way they know how-to drink an entire bottle of whiskey and record a podcast episode).

Join us as we devolve into L’s recent Synthetic Relationship with Bed-Stuy Boy (00:04:00), what happens when the person you’re seeing is upset to see your last S/O on your instagram (00:13:00), normalize sharing honest feelings when you’re back on the dating scene fresh from a break-up (00:43:20), what is the appropriate timeframe to cancel a date the day of (00:49:57), a drunk debate on the ethics of going on a date and deciding you want to be friends (01:33:45), and finally, we answer a user instagram question on what is the best drink to order on a first date (01:45:25). If you can’t believe it took hours to cover only these topics, well you haven’t drank the amount of whiskey we did.

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Episode 49: NYC Phase 4 Dating

This week Not Your Girlfriend’s Podcast:

00:02:00 Phase 4 COVID-19 Dating in NYC
00:25:32 Find Yourself a Palette Cleaner Sex Partner!
00:30:00 How to Get a Guy to Leave Your Apartment!
00:31:55 Repeat Offense (AKA Guys You Fuck More Than Once!)
00:32:01 Dumb Bitch Moments (Plenty!!!!!)
00:52:50 Creative Men vs No One!
00:40:46 How-To Correctly Ghost (No Breadcrumbing!)
00:42:00 The Respectable Side-Bitch Slot!

And more!

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Episode 46: Grass Chasing with Sarah Merrill

On this week’s episode, B is flying solo and interviewing special guest Sarah Merrill (@sarahamerrill_) from the Big Kid Problems Podcast. They talk about Sarah’s brand spanking new fiancé (00:04:48), moving to New York at 18 (00:14:20), #LAproblems (00:17:42), the evolution of popular meme page on Instagram Big Kid Problems (00:22:20) and what the hell are all these destination weddings and why we’re both having one (00:27:25). A chat of make-ups and break-ups and everything in between.

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Big Kid Problems Instagram: @bigkidproblems

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Episode 45: The Great British Blaise

An array of topics are covered this week when B+L are joined with special guest Blaise-B’s former neighbor in London (yes British accent included). They discuss what you learn from your first serious relationship (00:03:22), Wetherspoons date etiquette (00:17:48), internal payments systems when you’re in a Long Term Relationship (00:22:00), dating as someone whose mixed race, fetishization, the most recent season Love Island’s having the first person of color to win (and all the other racial issues with that show) (00:26:57), someone who went on three holidays with their boyfriend, what Blaise has learnt about traveling with a bae (00:39:24) and navigating your mental health issues in a relationship (00:42:53)

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Episode 44: Back to School Special-Boyfriend Training

Welcome to B+L’s Short Course Seminar on Boyfriend Training! They start off the episode with some life updates then dive into what they think is “Boyfriend Material” (00:11:16) the class broken down into four periods:

Period 1: (00:23:10) Communication- breaking down different arguing styles in a fight

Period 2: (00:42:41) Domestic/Living Situation- expectations in a relationship when it comes to cooking, cleaning, and paying for groceries

Period 3: (00:54:35) Social Interactions- how your bf interacts with your friends and family, being present with the other person when you’re in a sticky social situation

Period 4: Sex Ed (00:01:02) B+L’s best of advice on learning how to navigate a new person’s body, when and where to bring our your kinks and how to be woke and clear about your sexual needs.

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Episode 43: Analog Sex vs Digital Sex

We start out this episode with B’s Life Update (00:03:00) continued from Summer Fling Episode (Episode 39: Seasonally Cancel Your Bae-The Summer Fling). Long distance in a relationship (00:16:00), the vital importance of Factime Sex and Sexting (00:23:30) in a Long Distance relationship, A BDSM Quiz you should definitely take (https://bdsmtest.org/select-mode) and a funny sex story when you try to switch roles in the bedroom (00:30:55) and recon research for ladies to do in order to give a guy pointers when he goes down on you (00:43:00).

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Episode 42: Of Wedding Dates and Instathots with Lindsey from We Met At Acme

Host of the millennial dating podcast We Met At Acme, Lindsey Metselaar, joins B+L to talk about how to navigate wedding season, including when to give a plus one, going to wedding as a plus one with your S/O, and what happens when your boyfriend doesn’t want to come as your plus one. We also dive into if it’s ever okay for your boyfriend to follow instagram models, how many is too many, and if there is a situation where you should really bring it up. 

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Episode 41: Baecation

We’re in peak summer time which means lots of opportunity to take a trip with your bae. This week we break down L’s recent trip with R to Italy and answer questions like when’s the best time to take your first Baecation, trial’ing a big trip with a weekender before, and what to do when you get annoyed with your bae. We also answer a listener a email about what to do when you’ve been dating someone for a few years in your twenties but start to lose interest.

Episode 34: Season 2 Finale & Euro Trip Sequel

B+L are back together to wrap up the season. We talk L’s next relationships stage and give an update. B is fresh off the boat from her Europe trips gives us the rundown on what happened (and who happened). The episode is filled with dicks that are too big, hot internet date hookups and European flings of the past.

Episode 32: So Your Long Term Partner Left

Our first recurring guest, Anonymous S from Episode 7: So You Think Your Junk Is Brilliant is back to give us a life update. We last left her in a steady long term relationship until recently when her long term partner ended things. We talk about how to process a breakup when you don’t get closure, entering the dating world at 27, and building trust with a next person you date.

Episode 30: Dating Profile Tips from Bounce Co-Founders

B+L sit down with co-founders of new dating app in NYC called Bounce. They talk worse dates, rate B’s Bounce profile , and going on date with someone who doesn’t drink. We find out if all guys are really lying about their height, are selfies fair game for your profile and how important someone’s voice plays into their attractiveness.

Episode 29: When and How To DTR a New Relationship

Are you recently seeing someone and found yourself going on less first dates and more second, third and fourth dates? In this episode L discusses her latest bae and her and B give some advice on when to have the exclusive conversation, when to have the boyfriend/girlfriend conversation and why a lot of online dating romances end after the third/fourth date mark. We discuss a recent reddit thread on the subject and discuss what made our last online dating romances end and of course how to explore new bedroom stuff when you start sleeping exclusively with one person.