All in First Dates

Episode 57: The Peck of Foreplay

This week is all about L’s latest beau- The Italian. She discusses their first several dates, what went right and what went not so right. Throughout the episode we chat through a multiple of issues in early dating: communication in making plans ahead of time, Hot Guy sex privilege, room temperature comprise when staying over and how to tell someone their sex game needs improvement.

B’s still dating The Lawyer and chats through her summer plans with him and future plans on how things will be once she moves to the UK at the end of the summer. B+L discuss if you should cancel plans with a coworker in lieu of a date and discuss The Lawyer’s past casual dating.

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This episode was recorded in New York in July 2021, any COVID-related talks are reflective of the time of that recording. Please check https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html for the most up-to-date news regarding your State or Country.

Episode 56: Wet Hot American Girl Summer

It’s our first episode of the Summer and New York is open and back in business. L chats through her dry spell and how the dating scene differs down in Florida. B is off to a little too much of a hot start to hot girl summer by contradicting chlamydia. B gives an dating update on the Lawyer and L discusses an pending first date with the Italian.

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This episode was recorded in New York in June 2021, any COVID-related talks are reflective of the time of that recording. Please check https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html for the most up-to-date news regarding your State or Country.

Episode 55: A Marriage of the UK & US

On this week’s episode B is out West and interviews her two friends from Uni about their recent marriage and move from the UK to US. Anonymous American ‘A’ and British ‘J’ chat to B about how they met, deciding when to move in together, how they made decision to move to the States and what lies for them in the future.

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This episode was recorded in CA in May 2021, any COVID-related talks are reflective of the time of that recording. Please check https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html for the most up-to-date news regarding your State or Country.

Episode 52: 2020 Wrapped -Dating Year In Review

B+L Wrap up a terrible year with an amazing episode. Great for OG listeners and brand spanking new listeners alike, we take a retrospective look at our dating lives over the last year and quantify them into numbers with little to no meaning.

0:59 Number of Guys Fucked
4:13 Number of Guys Ghosted
5:55 Number of Break-Ups
9:22 Number of Second Dates
16:48 Number of Throwback Hits
49:33 On Repeat: Guy Most Talked to this Year
51:01 Number of Hinge Matches
52:00 Number of Thirst Traps Posted on Instagram
52:30 Best Lay of 2020
54:35 Worst Date of 2020

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This episode was recorded in early December, any COVID-related talks are reflective of the time of that recording. Please check https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html for the most up to date news regarding your State or Country.

Episode 51: Bar so Fine

Bar so Fine is all about the ‘Fine’ guys B+L have been dating lately. While nothing is seemingly wrong with them, they’re just meh, eh, bleh. Join us as we discuss if it’s us, them, our age, our growth or this bloody pandemic that’s making everything ‘fine’.

This episode was recorded in early Nov, any COVID-related talks are reflective of the time of that recording. Please check https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html for the most up to date news regarding your State or Country. Also Joe Biden is President-Elect now.

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Episode 50: Synthetic Relationships (Featuring an Entire Bottle of Whiskey)

B+L celebrates 50 episodes with this two-hour special (the only way they know how-to drink an entire bottle of whiskey and record a podcast episode).

Join us as we devolve into L’s recent Synthetic Relationship with Bed-Stuy Boy (00:04:00), what happens when the person you’re seeing is upset to see your last S/O on your instagram (00:13:00), normalize sharing honest feelings when you’re back on the dating scene fresh from a break-up (00:43:20), what is the appropriate timeframe to cancel a date the day of (00:49:57), a drunk debate on the ethics of going on a date and deciding you want to be friends (01:33:45), and finally, we answer a user instagram question on what is the best drink to order on a first date (01:45:25). If you can’t believe it took hours to cover only these topics, well you haven’t drank the amount of whiskey we did.

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Episode 49: NYC Phase 4 Dating

This week Not Your Girlfriend’s Podcast:

00:02:00 Phase 4 COVID-19 Dating in NYC
00:25:32 Find Yourself a Palette Cleaner Sex Partner!
00:30:00 How to Get a Guy to Leave Your Apartment!
00:31:55 Repeat Offense (AKA Guys You Fuck More Than Once!)
00:32:01 Dumb Bitch Moments (Plenty!!!!!)
00:52:50 Creative Men vs No One!
00:40:46 How-To Correctly Ghost (No Breadcrumbing!)
00:42:00 The Respectable Side-Bitch Slot!

And more!

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Episode 48: Testing COVID-19 Positive Breakups

With a 7 MONTH BREAK between Season 3 and Season 4, B+L make a comeback with some big news: they’re both single. L’s discusses how and when things went wrong when she moved in with R, while B talks about ending her long-distance relationship with H. We talk all things COVID-19, Phase 2 opening up in New York City, #BLM Movement and what makes a Simp.

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Episode 46: Grass Chasing with Sarah Merrill

On this week’s episode, B is flying solo and interviewing special guest Sarah Merrill (@sarahamerrill_) from the Big Kid Problems Podcast. They talk about Sarah’s brand spanking new fiancé (00:04:48), moving to New York at 18 (00:14:20), #LAproblems (00:17:42), the evolution of popular meme page on Instagram Big Kid Problems (00:22:20) and what the hell are all these destination weddings and why we’re both having one (00:27:25). A chat of make-ups and break-ups and everything in between.

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Episode 45: The Great British Blaise

An array of topics are covered this week when B+L are joined with special guest Blaise-B’s former neighbor in London (yes British accent included). They discuss what you learn from your first serious relationship (00:03:22), Wetherspoons date etiquette (00:17:48), internal payments systems when you’re in a Long Term Relationship (00:22:00), dating as someone whose mixed race, fetishization, the most recent season Love Island’s having the first person of color to win (and all the other racial issues with that show) (00:26:57), someone who went on three holidays with their boyfriend, what Blaise has learnt about traveling with a bae (00:39:24) and navigating your mental health issues in a relationship (00:42:53)

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Episode 38: Dating with Tom and Tucker of The Undesirables

In this week’s episode B+L are joined by fellow dating podcasters Tom and Tucker of the Undesirables Podcast. They break down their favorite dating apps (and Tom and Tucker’s trying out a recent fetish app), how women are feeling about receiving oral on a hookup, how NO MAN have ever said no to a blow job, how to approach someone IRL that you find cute (with TWO subway not-so-love-stories told) and much more.

Episode 34: Season 2 Finale & Euro Trip Sequel

B+L are back together to wrap up the season. We talk L’s next relationships stage and give an update. B is fresh off the boat from her Europe trips gives us the rundown on what happened (and who happened). The episode is filled with dicks that are too big, hot internet date hookups and European flings of the past.

Episode 32: So Your Long Term Partner Left

Our first recurring guest, Anonymous S from Episode 7: So You Think Your Junk Is Brilliant is back to give us a life update. We last left her in a steady long term relationship until recently when her long term partner ended things. We talk about how to process a breakup when you don’t get closure, entering the dating world at 27, and building trust with a next person you date.

Episode 31: Valentine's Day Dating

B+L are separated by an ocean but that doesn’t stop them from breaking down Valentine’s Day do and don’ts for those in a serious relationship to those in maybe want to get more serious. They also answer two listener questions and give some sage advice on dating older and what happens when you have emotional compatibility without sexual compatibility.

Episode 30: Dating Profile Tips from Bounce Co-Founders

B+L sit down with co-founders of new dating app in NYC called Bounce. They talk worse dates, rate B’s Bounce profile , and going on date with someone who doesn’t drink. We find out if all guys are really lying about their height, are selfies fair game for your profile and how important someone’s voice plays into their attractiveness.